Doris Smallidge Obituary

Doris Irene Smallidge
Doris Irene Smallidge

September 29, 1934 - June 26, 2017
Born in New York, New York
Resided in East Lyme, CT


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East Lyme - Doris Irene Smallidge, or Dorie as she preferred to be called, passed away in her sleep in the early hours of Monday, June 26, 2017, after a prolonged illness.

Born to Dr. Angelo and Constance Scarvalone in New York, N.Y., in 1934, she grew-up along with her sisters in Riverdale, N.Y. She attended boarding school in Sarony, N.Y. at the St. Gabriel School and graduated from Notre Dame College in Baltimore, Md.

Dorie is survived by her husband of almost 61 years, John Smallidge, met while summering with friends in Northeast Harbor, Maine, where John was born and raised. John taught Dorie about sailing and life on the water and she taught him about New York City social life as he completed studies at the Maine Maritime Academy, graduate school at the University of Maine and while serving in the U.S. Navy. After marrying in 1956, Dorie starting raising a growing family with her trademark enthusiasm and passion for family and loved ones, in Maryland, New York and Maine. After completion of John's service obligations, the Smallidges settled in East Lyme where they have lived since 1962. Dorie and John raised four boys who will remember her most for her selfless and tireless dedication to each of them, their spouses and families, her culinary skills in managing to keep five healthy appetites artfully satisfied while under her roof and beyond and her mostly calm advice on life and the pursuit of happiness.

Though a bit of a white knuckled sailor in bumpy weather, in her life, Dorie was most happy under sunny skies and in one of the many gunkholes, coves and harbors along the southern New England coast while sharing sundowners, preparing dinner and snuggled for a sunset in the cockpit of the family sailboat with family and friends or rafting up with fellow sailors. She and John had many adventures on their sailing trips to Northeast Harbor and in their many years with fellow members of the Crescent Cruising Club and in the Niantic Bay Yacht Club, where she served in various administrative capacities over the years and where she made sure her kids learned to swim and sail.

She also worked in the payroll department and as a secretary for the East Lyme Board of Education for over 20 years before her retirement. Dorie was born to be a lifelong NY Giants fan, loved game day watching her Giants as well as the UConn Huskies. She fiercely watched over and cheered for her children and her grandchildren in whatever event they participated in.

Never a great lover of cold weather, after she and John retired they spent many winter months in Vero Beach, Fla., where they very much enjoyed the company of friends made there. Dorie was a cancer survivor and in her later years suffered from COPD, which greatly curtailed her ability to spend time outside and she suffered in even cool weather.

Dorie is predeceased by her parents; and sister, Virginia Scarvalone of Stamford.

She is survived by husband, John; sister, Alicia "Bebe" Ettlinger; her sons, their wives, grandsons and granddaughters: Michael, wife Michele and children, Lily and Lucas of South Salem, N.Y.; Timothy, wife Carolyn and children, Brandon and Tyler of East Lyme, Andrew and daughter Caitlin Smallidge; Stephen, wife Tracey and children, Zoƫ, Zane and Zeke of Niantic.

Visitation will be from 5 to 7 p.m. Friday, at the Thomas L. Neilan & Sons East Lyme Funeral Home, 48 Grand St., Niantic.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to aid Alzheimers research through the Alzheimer's Association at alz, org. Though Dorie did not suffer from alzheimers, the need for a cure was near and dear to her heart.

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Friday, June 30, 2017
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