Arlene Dray Obituary

Arlene  Dray
Arlene Dray

October 14, 1940 - July 26, 2020
Born in New London, Connecticut
Resided in Waterford, Connecticut


Arlene B. Dray (Busca), 79, of Waterford, passed away peacefully with her loving husband of 57 years, James (Jim) Dray, by her side on Sunday, July 26, 2020. Born in New London on October 14, 1940, she was the daughter of the late Mario and Zaida Busca. She was raised in New London and graduated in New London High School’s class of 1958 along with her high school sweetheart and soon-to-be husband, Jim. They were married in 1962 and raised their family in Niantic and Waterford.

Family was very important to Arlene. She was a loving wife, daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, and very recently a great-grandmother. She was immensely proud of her children and grandchildren. She was also proud of her Italian heritage and loved cooking for her family, especially the traditional foods passed down from her mother. She loved to garden and entertain with friends. She lived an active lifestyle and especially enjoyed golf, tennis, skiing, and traveling.

Arlene was employed in various administrative positions in her career, and she took an active role in the East Lyme Junior Women’s Club, including serving as president.

Arlene leaves behind her beloved husband and their three children: Tim Dray and his wife Tish, of Lancaster, MA, Susan Adams and her fiancé Paul, of Niantic, and Steven Dray and his wife Elizabeth, of Arlington, MA. She cherished her 10 grandchildren: Eric and Abby Dray, Alicia Dray, David Dray, Andrew Dray; Dan and Jillian Adams, Rachel and Craig Hecker, Matthew Adams and his fiancé Emily, Benjamin Adams; Isa Dray, and Jackson Dray; and a very recent blessing of a great-grandchild, Blaze Hecker. Arlene was the sister of the late Elia Bishop, the late Aurelio Busca, and Mickey Busca and his fiancé Kathy of Preston, CT.

All services will be private to protect the health of those who knew and loved Arlene. Please visit to leave an online condolence.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in Arlene’s memory may be made to:
Alzheimer’s Association
200 Executive Boulevard
Southington, CT 06489
American Heart Association
5 Brookside Drive
Wallingford, CT 06492






Alzheimer's Association
200 Executive Boulevard
Southington, CT US 06489
The purpose of the Alzheimer's Association is to provide support for the Alzheimer's Disease and Related Disorders Association.
American Heart Association
5 Brookside Drive
Wallingford, CT US 06492
The American Heart Association's mission is to reduce disability and death from cardiovascular disease and stroke. The association was founded in 1924 and today is the nation's largest national voluntary health agency devoted to defeating heart disease and stroke, which together claim about 950,000 lives each year and rank as our nation's No. 1 and No. 3 killers. To prevent, treat and ultimately defeat these diseases, the association funds research, creates and implements professional and public education programs focusing on improving emergency care and reducing risk factors, holds community service activities and engages in advocacy efforts to safeguard American's health.
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