Preparing a Eulogy

We offer the following suggestions in the hope that they will help in the preparation of a format for a Eulogy.

It is a compliment and a privilege to be chosen to deliver a Eulogy.

This comes with challenges such as the emotional circumstances, the need to be brief and the context of your presentation (approximately 5 minutes).

  • Try to determine the wishes of the family and the clergy.
  • Begin with expressing thanks to all assembled for their presence and support, on behalf of the grieving family.
  • Your aim is to deliver a tasteful message which addresses the chapters of his/her lifetime which will bring pleasant memories to those assembled.
  • Begin with "Introduction" such as:

Where born:
Attended School:

  • Enjoyed athletics - circumstances where by he/she met his/her partner - marriage - family - work - accomplishments - hobbies.
  • It is appropriate to introduce several light-hearted stories about his/her life time but be aware that to be too humorous can destroy the devotional-liturgical flow of the funeral service.
  • (Keep the entertaining stories to be shared instead at the reception which may follow).
  • You may experience emotion during your delivery. This is not unusual and not a weakness. We suggest you hesitate - take several deep breaths and begin again. Those assembled will understand. (If concerned you may have a friend prepared to assist you).
  • Keep in mind your Eulogy is a special and appreciated contribution to this Celebration of a Life Lived.
  • You might share your message with a family member prior to the service for approval or suggestions.

    We know your efforts will be appreciated!
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The 6 Central Needs of Mourning

  1. Acknowledge the reality of death
  2. Move toward the pain and loss
  3. Remember the person who died
  4. Develop a new self identity
  5. Search for meaning
  6. Receive ongoing support from others